I've been battling with her getting clean and seeking help, but she’s still been buying from dealers and it's putting a dent in our relationship, which is dissolving my feelings for her.Am I an idiot for continuing this pattern or do you think there's any hope for this relationship? Dear Anon., You’re not an idiot, but you need to break up with her. “Interesting” people are interesting because they lead full lives—they engage their passions and hobbies. I encourage you to explore these passions in the coming weeks, whatever they may be. Is it starting a book group in which you analyze the minor pratfalls of “The Babysitters Club”? My boyfriend and I have been in a rocky relationship for the last few years and we terminated things recently. I want to go talk to someone with him, but we can't seem to get on the same page about it.
”) than it is to, say, pursue the kinds of changes that would help you find the succulent rewards and fulfilled life you seek. Let go of unhelpful thoughts and gender stereotypes that don’t serve you, and focus on commanding your own unique bliss. Even with your conflicting stances on abortion, it may help you to know that this is a common predicament—one person wants to keep the child and the other does not. Keep the baby and prepare to raise them as a single parent, with help from whatever current support systems you have—family, friends, community.2.Or, if you are not ready to have a child, start making an adoption plan.If not, do some research on your own or ask trusted family members or friends for their recommendations.As you discuss things with a counselor, keep your ex in the loop and keep inviting him to join you on these visits. He might be in shock right now—it is pretty terrible timing, admittedly—and he may need a minute to process his feelings before he comes to terms with what’s what.